I have to admit that as an adolescent and young man I did sex things with girlfriends and actually had intercourse with a woman.
Yet I represent myself as a gay man.
This is not such a big deal. Probably lots of gay guys had sex with girls when they were young, some even get married to women before they decide to follow their lust.
But reverse it—say a guy who’s had some youthful sex experiences with other guys, yet represents himself as straight.
I suggest it’s easier for a gay guy to admit he’s had sex with women than for a straight guy to admit he’s has sex with other guys.
Anyway, it’s never good for a man to say, “I am not gay.”
US Senator Larry Craig keeps saying it (to guffaws). Now a Vatican priest is saying the same thing.
It’s Monsignor Tommaso Stenico, videotaped making sexual advances toward a young man.
Yet I represent myself as a gay man.
This is not such a big deal. Probably lots of gay guys had sex with girls when they were young, some even get married to women before they decide to follow their lust.
But reverse it—say a guy who’s had some youthful sex experiences with other guys, yet represents himself as straight.
I suggest it’s easier for a gay guy to admit he’s had sex with women than for a straight guy to admit he’s has sex with other guys.
Anyway, it’s never good for a man to say, “I am not gay.”
US Senator Larry Craig keeps saying it (to guffaws). Now a Vatican priest is saying the same thing.
It’s Monsignor Tommaso Stenico, videotaped making sexual advances toward a young man.
As the AP (via IHT) story says:
Monsignor Stenico says he’s not gay—he was pretending to be gay as part of his “research.”While there have long been allegations of gays in the Roman Catholic priesthood, the Stenico case is unusual because he is a relatively high-ranking Vatican official. Stenico heads an office in the Vatican's Congregation for Clergy — the main Vatican office overseeing all the world's priests.
Not the behavior, not the hypocrisy, it’s the sheer stupidity of Monsignor’s explanation that most discredits the Church.
The Vatican ain’t buying it. They shitcanned him.
The story accurately states RCC’s position on gay people.
I guess one way to express compassion is to tell gays and lesbians that they are “intrinsically disordered.”Vatican teaching holds that gays and lesbians should be treated with compassion and dignity but that homosexual acts are "intrinsically disordered."
Funny, I don’t feel intrinsically disordered. I don’t even feel bad about my sex-with-females episodes.
Every once in a while, when someone indicates they assume I’m straight, I’ll disabuse them. Usually I’ll just say I’m gay.
Sometimes, though, I’ll get all haughty and defensive and declare, “I am NOT straight!”
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As my friend Lee Brenneman once confessed to me, after going home with a woman instead of a man from The Stud bar back in the late 1970s, "I'd forgotten how nice it was having sex with a girl. You don't have to go through any of that complicated dance about who's going to fuck whom. It's just sort of obvious, which was kind of refreshing, but of course it was ridiculous because I really am a fag."
We're all bisexual, tending to one direction or another in varying degrees of strength, with only a small minority who are by nature TOTALLY homo or hetero. I enjoyed the actual sex with women back when I was a teenager just because I found sex of all sorts at that age endlessly fascinating, but I felt desperately guilty because all my intense teenage romantic love feelings went towards other males.
In other words, I was being a liar to my female sex partners which isn't a good thing. At least public bathroom sex like Larry Craig's has its own truth, even though he doesn't seem to realize it, just as your Vatican dude doesn't seem to realize it either.
By the way, my first live-in lover was an Irish boy named Tim Hollywood who was an ex-Benedictine monk, and he just took it for granted that the entire power structure in the Vatican was a bunch of old queens who specialized in beautiful young men.
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